Let's assume that you want to be able to reconnect with an ex girlfriend and that you probably made some mistakes when you were dating her. You know that you are going to have to make some amends for that if you are going to really have any chance of being able to patch things up, so you feel like you should definitely say you are sorry to her. I would agree with that - however, there is something that you should think about before you do.
You know that you messed up and wanting to apologize to your ex girlfriend is a good thing. However, one of the mistakes that guys make when they are in a situation like that is, they go too far with it. Meaning, they just tell her that they are sorry over and over again. I don't know if you have ever heard someone apologize to you like that, but if you had, you would know that it gets kind of weird after a while.
It's good to apologize to her, but you definitely don't want to go so far that all you are doing is making apologies. That's not going to really help you to win her back.
Another thing that you need to think about is whether or not this is going to be a one sided thing. Here is what I mean by that: Usually in a relationship that comes apart, it's both people who make mistakes. It's usually not just one person. So, while you may be feeling guilty and feeling like you have to say you are sorry, you may want to think about whether or not she made mistakes when she was with you.
A relationship where both people say they are sorry and own up to their mistakes is a lot more likely to succeed than one where it is just one person who is admitting guilt and seeking forgiveness. That is something that a lot of men who are trying to patch things up with an ex girlfriend seem to forget about. And unless she is going to own up to some of the things that she may have done wrong, you might not have that good of a chance of being able to work things out for the long term. You may be able to win her back, but that does not mean that it will last. That's something that you may want to think about before you go and tell your ex girlfriend that you are sorry.
You know that you messed up and wanting to apologize to your ex girlfriend is a good thing. However, one of the mistakes that guys make when they are in a situation like that is, they go too far with it. Meaning, they just tell her that they are sorry over and over again. I don't know if you have ever heard someone apologize to you like that, but if you had, you would know that it gets kind of weird after a while.
It's good to apologize to her, but you definitely don't want to go so far that all you are doing is making apologies. That's not going to really help you to win her back.
Another thing that you need to think about is whether or not this is going to be a one sided thing. Here is what I mean by that: Usually in a relationship that comes apart, it's both people who make mistakes. It's usually not just one person. So, while you may be feeling guilty and feeling like you have to say you are sorry, you may want to think about whether or not she made mistakes when she was with you.
A relationship where both people say they are sorry and own up to their mistakes is a lot more likely to succeed than one where it is just one person who is admitting guilt and seeking forgiveness. That is something that a lot of men who are trying to patch things up with an ex girlfriend seem to forget about. And unless she is going to own up to some of the things that she may have done wrong, you might not have that good of a chance of being able to work things out for the long term. You may be able to win her back, but that does not mean that it will last. That's something that you may want to think about before you go and tell your ex girlfriend that you are sorry.
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